You are a cute Chameleon!
Try the BEST daily habits and practices for your Archetype!
Your Relationship Archetype is a Chameleon
Adaptable, empathetic and deeply intuitive! You have the gift of reading people, now it’s time to turn that skill inwards to attune to yourself and what you need to thrive.
As a Chameleon:
You become whoever he needs you to be—and wonder why it’s never enough
You're exhausted from performing and terrified he'll leave if you stop
You attract men who benefit from you staying in performance mode
The great news is…
If you haven't attracted your soulmate yet, this is why. When you're sending mixed signals about who you are, you attract mixed results—men who love the performance… But you can get on track when you take time to discover yourself BEFORE dating so if that’s you let's get on track!
Dating tips!
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Be clear
Chances are, you adapt to the men you’re seeing and can have fun with anyone. Your work is to make a list of what YOU want to feel, and stick to it!
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Accept your feelings
Coaches ALWAYS tell Chameleons to "be authentic” and express gratitude but instead of thinking “what does he need?” focus on how he makes YOU feel.
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How to speed it up
Chameleons wait until they're "in love" to show their real self. Practice sharing yourself early on— you won’t be for everyone, but that’s the point!
Femininity tips!
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Discver yourself
Chameleons need to take time to learn their unique likes and dislikes. Make a list of all the things you know you love, and hate— then build on it!
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Say No
Try saying "no" to one thing per day. Start low-stakes. Don't explain, justify, or soften it. This is how you filter out who isn’t for you and learn yourself, too!
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Choose more
Chameleons default to "Where do you want to eat/go?" Practice leading instead. Suggest the restaurant. Choose the plan. Practice making decisions.
Fictional characters with your relationship archetype:
Cinderella (Disney), Daphne Bridgerton (Bridgerton Series), Erin (The Office), Rory Gilmore (Gilmore Girls) — all proud Chameleons just like you!
Where This Pattern Started
You learned early that your environment didn’t have room for the “real you”. To stay close and loved, you adapted to fit the environment… but this established a sense of “aloneness” that never went away. The unspoken agreement was: "My real self isn't lovable, but my performance self is. If I want anything, I’ll have to become something other than myself.”
Why This Feels Difficult to Break
Your nervous system tells you: "If I’m myself, I won’t fit in” and this feels like being completely alone. It stems from an Attunement Wound, in childhood. All children share the need for a parent to take the time to know them— to do the emotional labor of figuring them out, what makes them unique, their strengths and dislikes. If we didn’t have that, we adapt to the environment instead. We settle for being liked over being loved, so we never feel truly seen or nourished by our lives. Deep down, your inner child is likely still waiting for her parents to do the work to help her self-identify and know that her real self is worthy of love, protection and care. We feel panic at the idea of “being authentic” because no one ever helped us to find ourselves. We look for men to do this for us but what if nothing/no one else can tell us who we are? You break out of this cycle into a fulfilling, thriving life when you begin to take small, consistent action in alignment with yourself. Listen to your emotions, let how you feel guide you. Don’t be afraid of losing people. Your soulmate and most fulfilling life is waiting for the real you to emerge!
