Your Relationship Archetype is a Butterfly
You’ve done the work, and it shows. You should be proud of yourself! As a Butterfly, You attract without grasping. your feminine presence speaks for itself. You don’t let anxiety run your actions with men (even though you’re still a human being, you feel things!) You know the difference between a man who deserves your softness and one who hasn't earned it. You've stopped abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You let him lead and you receive it gracefully
How you got here…
Chances are you didn't arrive here by accident… and if you did, please reach out to me and tell me exactly how your parents parented you because I need to know! Most likely, at some point you decided to change. Heal. Grow. Choose yourself, over anyone else. It doesn’t mean you don’t still have bad days, or feel things… but you don’t chase love.
Dating Tips
Decide what you want
If you're single and don't want to be, it's likely because you don't fully believe there's a man out there for you — or you're dating the wrong men and not meeting enough of the type you actually want.
Get strategic
Your problem is a strategy problem. Coaches always tell Butterflies to date around — but that's pointless if none of the men are right for you. Be picky. Don't waste your time. If that means there are no eligible men within 100 miles of you, travel more. Weekend trips are your best friend.
Don't settle, but break the rules
Take the training wheels off. Break a few rules — every good love story does. "High value" doesn't necessarily mean "husband material for you." A perfect man on paper could bore you to death, and that's okay.
Femininity Tips
Find your style
Enjoy discovering your unique feminine aesthetic — the type of femininity that's distinctly you. Create a mood board, look up fictional characters you're drawn to, or ask ChatGPT to help you define it.
Be courageous
Share your weaknesses. Ask for help when you need it. Lean on people. Not everyone will be your soulmate or your person — and that's okay. Practice letting people see you anyway.
It’s not so serious
Enjoy meeting men and connecting with new people across the board — even if they're not the one. Your job is to get out into life. Your foyer is big, but your inner chamber is small and selective.
Fictional characters with your relationship archetype:
Elizabeth Bennet (Pride & Prejudice), Tami Taylor (Friday Night Lights), Miranda (Eat Pray Love), Diane (Fleabag series 2) — all proud Butterflies just like you!